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- Cover Type:
- 122 Pages
- Publisher: Cruciform Press
- Publication Date: September 2014
- ISBN: FBORGMBRAFTERTHEYAREYOURSTHE9781936760923
After They Are Yours: The Grace and Grit of Adoption
Adoption offers a powerful testimony of grace in a world of unwanted pregnancies and on-demand abortion. But no one said adoption is easy. As an adoptive parent and pastor who has counseled many adoptive parents, Brian Borgman knows there is another side to adoption—one we are often reluctant to talk about.
Parenting is always a challenge, but parenting an adopted child can have some special challenges. Adoptive parents can experience much heartache and even guilt with their adopted children. Many suffer in silence. Borgman writes with a burden to minister to those who are struggling.
After They Are Yours: The Grace and Grit of Adoption talks transparently and redemptively about the often unspoken problems adoptive parents face. Combining personal experience, biblical wisdom, and a heart for people, Borgman recalls the humbling and difficult lessons God has taught him and his wife.
This is not a success story, rather it's a story of struggles and failures set in the broader context of a God who is gracious and continually teaches us the meaning of adoption. What do you do when it's hard to hope? Here is a story of adoption that's real, raw, redemptive, and edifying.
About the Author
Brian Borgman is the author of several books, a contributor to the Women’s ESV Devotional Bible, and founding pastor of Grace Community Church, Minden, NV (1993-present). He earned a B.A. in Biblical Studies from Biola University (La Mirada, CA), a Master of Divinity from Western Conservative Baptist Seminary (Portland, OR) and a Doctor of Ministry from Westminster Seminary (Escondido, CA). Brian and his wife, Ariel, have been married since 1987 and have three children and one grandchild.
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“After They Are Yours is a compelling acknowledgment that parenting adopted children can be uniquely challenging. Brian Borgman lets us step into his familys experience as he unashamedly shares the joys and difficulties of their adoption story. Pain and loss are an inescapable part of every adoption, and Borgman points us to the gospel that provides both the framework and the fuel that families will need for the challenges that come. Grace and grit indeed; this is an excellent resource.”
Stephen Story
Executive Director of Covenant Care Services
“Adoption, like missions for so many years before, has been sold to sincere disciples by romanticizing the calling. And as in missions many have flung themselves into the noble life-altering calling of adoption only to find themselves secretly wondering if they have been sold a bill of goods. The prince has turned into a toad. The good news is most refreshing to those who feel stuck in a bad story but are too ashamed and afraid to admit that reality is not that charming. Too often we unintentionally promote noble callings, like missions and adoption, with the lure of prosperity; not because we promise blessing, but because we do not honestly warn of difficulty. Brian Borgmans book is long overdue. He boldly unveils the secret too many are unwilling to discuss: adoption can be very, very hard. This will be a book that I will buy and hand out to many couples who with starry eyes plunged into the calling of adoption and are now in the full shock of difficulty. They, like Bunyans Mr. Ready-to-halt will find in Pastor Borgman a Mr. Great-heart who tells them as the sincere and weary traveler was told, Your travel hither has been with difficulty, but that will make thy Rest the sweeter.”
Bob Bixby
Lead Pastor of Redeemer Church, Fremont, CA
“With the explosion of the orphan care movement among evangelicals in recent years, this book provides a timely, much needed perspective on the challenges often facing adoptive and foster parents. As Borgman takes readers on his familys journey of adoption, he does not hold back on some of his most personal struggles. While some of these anecdotes may be difficult to read, this transparent, gritty story highlights how God loves to take the messiest of situations and then transform them for his glory. This book provides a healthy dose of realism every prospective adoptive parent needs, followed by practical insights and the hope of redemption that is only found in the gospel.”
Matt Oettinger
Campus Elder/Orphan Care Ministry Leader of The Summit Church, Raleigh-Durham, N
“Brian invites us into his familys adoption journey with refreshingly raw honesty, where he articulates the very real challenges and very real joy found in the day-to-day after they are home.”
Andy Lehman
Vice President of Lifesong for Orphans and Founding Board Member of the Christian Alliance for Orphans and the Orphan Sunday campaign
“Too many people enter the adoption process with false hopes, images of grandeur, and rose-colored glasses about their future with an adopted child that too often are based on marketing and adoptive parents not sharing the rest of the story. The consequences of such misguided beliefs and motives can be devastating to the adopted child and adoptive family. Thankfully, we now have After They Are Yours to protect well-intentioned, prospective parents from the perils of ignorance and prepare them for their future. Through his raw honesty, vulnerability, and insight, and scriptural truths as his foundation, Borgman gives potential and current adoptive parents, and any other parents for that matter, an invaluable resource to ensure that they can enter into the life-changing world of adoption with eyes wide open.”
Philip Darke
President of Providence World and co-author of In Pursuit of Orphan Excellence
“Just as marriage is given to us by God and intended to reflect, however imperfectly, the relationship between Christ and His church, earthly adoption illustrates the glorious work of Gods sovereign, gracious adoption of each of us into His family so that we may cry out Abba, Father! And just as marriage is a marred reflection due to our sinful condition, adoption is fraught with peril and pain along with the joy and gladness.””After They are Yours is a vivid, plain spoken picture of that joy and pain. Would that all the adoptive families I have worked with over the decades could have read this as part of the adoptive process! The book also presents a clear, Biblical teaching concerning a proper response to the difficulties which arise in every adoption and in fact in every parents life.”My wife, Diane, and I have watched this joy and pain and love lived out in the lives of Brian and Ariel and all three of our Borgman grandkids, and can testify to Gods gracious faithfulness and provision for them, and to Gods love of adoption, on earth as it is in heaven!”I highly recommend this very accessible, truthful picture of adoption.
Judge David Gamble
elder; President and Trustee of City of Refuge, Gardnerville, NV
“This book will be a blessed resource for all parents who have adopted or are considering adopting a child. It is rooted in sound theology and personal experience. The author is realistic about the unique and significant challenges faced by those who adopt (adopt boldly with eyes wide open), while also extolling the privilege of reflecting Gods grace by seeking to rescue a child from darkness (God enters into this abusive, oppressive family and removes us). The greatest strength of this book is the transparent way in which the author tells his familys adoption story. He openly shares his own struggles and sins along with his familys experiences of Gods grace and mercy. His insights will benefit all parents, not just those who have adopted.”
Dr Jim Newheiser
pastor, author, Director of the Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship, founding member of the Fellowship of Independent Reformed Evangelicals
“The decision to adopt is heroic. The reality is often hard. This book does not sugar coat the sacrifice that comes standard with adoption. It will help those considering adoption count the cost. And it will provide encouragement and help for parents who have already welcomed a child into their forever family.”
Bob Lepine
Co-Host, FamilyLife Today
“Its one thing to tell the truth about being an adoptive parent, its a whole other thing to peer into a mans soul as he wrestles with God. After They Are Yours opens a window into the life of a father of an adoptive family and allows you to peek into his mind, seeing snapshots of and watching him grapple with his raw emotions. Hes a husband, a protector and defender of his wife. Oh yes, hes a father, duty bound to raise up his children to live a disciplined life through discipleship, love and second chances. Hes a manstrong yet weak. The power of his struggle beckons you to pray for the father. This book was a glimpse of how God fights for us and doesnt let go. I wanted to be their intercessor. After They Are Yours reminds us of the importance of having people who will wrap around adoptive families with support and prayer when a family says Yes to Gods call to adopt. It reinforces that God has called for a lifetime commitment when we adopt and that He will be faithful.”
Dr. Sharen Ford
Program Director of Adoption and Orphan Care, Focus on the Family
“After They Are Yours is a compelling story about saying yes to God and then watching the Father shape and redeem his sons and daughters through love, grace, and mercy.”
Kelly Rosati
Vice President of Community Outreach, Focus on the Family
“Its all here—joy, hurt, and longing. And this is precisely what we most need: truth-telling that plunges beyond cliche and facade to speak of both the beauty and the brokenness that so often come woven together in adoption, all of it wrapped round by Gods limitless grace.”
Jedd Medefind
President, Christian Alliance for Orphans and author of Becoming Home
Product Description
Adoption offers a powerful testimony of grace in a world of unwanted pregnancies and on-demand abortion. But no one said adoption is easy. As an adoptive parent and pastor who has counseled many adoptive parents, Brian Borgman knows there is another side to adoption—one we are often reluctant to talk about.
Parenting is always a challenge, but parenting an adopted child can have some special challenges. Adoptive parents can experience much heartache and even guilt with their adopted children. Many suffer in silence. Borgman writes with a burden to minister to those who are struggling.
After They Are Yours: The Grace and Grit of Adoption talks transparently and redemptively about the often unspoken problems adoptive parents face. Combining personal experience, biblical wisdom, and a heart for people, Borgman recalls the humbling and difficult lessons God has taught him and his wife.
This is not a success story, rather it's a story of struggles and failures set in the broader context of a God who is gracious and continually teaches us the meaning of adoption. What do you do when it's hard to hope? Here is a story of adoption that's real, raw, redemptive, and edifying.
About The Author
Product Details
- Cover Type:
- 122 Pages
- Publisher: Cruciform Press
- Publication Date: September 2014
- ISBN: FBORGMBRAFTERTHEYAREYOURSTHE9781936760923